Did you guys hear this song already? Well, it’s not really a song, it’s more of a speech but I fell in love instantly. I was in the car with my best friends while it played on the radio and I have to say most of the advice this guy gives went straight to my heart. If you have some spare time, take a listen: it might put certain things in perspective. And since it’s all about advice in life, I thought I’d give you some of the lessons I learned in my young and happy life. Feel free to comment away or to fill in some blanks.
Try not to regret your decisions. In the end it’s those decisions that made you into the person that you are now with all the failures, but mostly the lessons you’ve learned through life. If you make a wrong turn, face the consequences. It’s never too late to try something new.
Find true friendship. It’s not about quantity, but quality. Find someone that will tell you when you’re being a dickhead, someone you can spend the good times with but can count on in the bad times. Someone that gives you the room to be yourself, make your mistakes and will stand with you through the process. They might not always be there when you want them, but they will be there when you need them.
Put things in perspective. Feelings are a bitch and they can cloud your judgment instantly. When you are disappointed in someone, for example because that person said or did something to hurt your feelings. Wait a few hours, then try to see their point of view. Did he/she know she was going to hurt you? What is going on in their lives? Do they understand they did something wrong? How can you tell them without being aggressive about it?
Don’t underestimate the pain someone feels. You might have had a horrible experience in your life. If someone you know then comes crying about the fact that they broke up with their love and goes on and on about this, it might be hard to feel sympathy. Just know that for them, the pain might be just as intense, because they cannot imagine a worse pain.
Discuss, speak your mind. The most interesting things I’ve learned have been by discussing my opinion with other people.
Sometimes it’s not necessary to question why a problem is in your life, you might not even find an answer. It’s easier to look for a solution to make it go away instead of lingering on the why’s and how’s.
Believe in love, but don’t believe in perfection. If you meet a person that you want to start a relationship with, know that how they are will never change. There might be flaws that can irritate you from time to time, but if you can live with these flaws, you can love that person. Don’t try to change them, because some chore parts of a personality will never actually change.
People are never monsters. It doesn’t matter what horrible things they did in life, they always remain human.
Don’t think that there’s something wrong with you when you notice that you’re different than someone else on some points. Everyone feels this way and everyone has their ‘weirdness’.
Be passionate. Find something you love and never lose it.
And through all: Be yourself and enjoy it.