A lot of people have trouble with their parents when it comes to outing themselves as being gay. That won't be a problem for Willa Hansen-Kohn: her parents Sally Kohn and Sarah Hansen -who are both gay- want her to be gay too when she grows up.
Kohn says she wants Willa to be gay. "We define happiness as some variation of our own lives, or at least the lives of our expectations. If we went to college, we want our kids to go to college. If we vote Democrat, of course we want our kids to vote Democrat" she states in an essay for the Washington Post.
The essay got a lot of reactions, both positive and negative. Sally Kohn says that being gay is an asset and a gift. She also thinks that doubt about her parenting skills reflects people's own biases. "Perhaps people think it is easier to be straight in a homophobic culture." Being straight does not mean you are superior, Kohn says.
The mother had very supportive parents and she believes that this shaped her philosophies. They bought every book featuring gay families and nontraditional-gender-roles. When Willa plays with her bears as being mom and dad, her moms tell her that it could also be dad and dad. But, they state, it's her own choice. Kohn wants her daughter to be happy but most of all, true to herself. She shouldn't listen to other people's ideals.
Christina Brown, psychology professor at the University of Kentucky, says Kohn is "just trying to show gender neutrality to he daughter to provide a counterpoint to the hetero-normative dialogue. That way she will feel accepted no matter what."
From my point of view, I think Sally Kohn is right to teach her daughter that she should choose her own path. Being gay is not the only thing people are struggling with. Money, weight, clothes... Everything that can be judged, will be judged. I think that people these days are way too obsessed with a ‘good image', but that doesn't always make them happy.